Surviving your first overnight stay without baby

August 29, 2013 by

Surviving your first overnight stay without baby

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How to survive your first overnight stay away from baby

Kara Mcleod of Sunrise, FL, says Leaving her daughter, Madeline, overnight with relatives for the first time was like ripping off a Band-Aid. She knew itwould be painful, but she just needed to get it over with. ”I thought it might be tremendous and I might never do it again, but I had to give it a try,” she says.

Bonding with your newborn is one of the most intense periods in your life, so it’s natural to feel anxious about your first overnight separation, says Debbie Glasser, PhD., a licensed clinical child psychologist in Richmond, Virginia, and founder of ”There’s an just intense quality of the recent relationship between a newborn and a parent,”  Says Glasser, a mother of three. ”You spend 24/7 getting to know each other. You become an expert on your little one, so separation isn’t something that can feel easy for a lot of moms.”

You might endure a whirlwind of emotions when thinking about leaving your baby overnight, from fear that the caregiver won’t understand your babies needs the way you’d do, to sadness that your baby might actually be okay without you. Or you might feel excited about getting a break from motherhood and then guilt about needing a break. ”Those are all very normal feelings,” Glasser says.

By preparing for the separation ahead of time, you can combat some of those feelings, and actually enjoy the time apart. Make sure you and your baby are completely comfortable with the caregiver by spending time together prior to the separation. Try an hour or two of vocational separation before  you plan to leave for the night. Your baby will feel more accountable with someone she knows and trusts, and the caregiver will learn your babies routines and cues.

Create a list of important information such as emergency contacts, feeding instructions, sleep schedules, and suggested activities of caregiver as everything she needs to take care of your baby. Before you leave, establish guidelines for checking in with the caregiver. Make it clear up front what you expect and what the babysitter can expect from you, such as calling to check in at a specified  time or needing a detailed blow-by-blow of the day’s activities. ”Set parameters that put you at ease, whatever makes you comfortable,” Glasser says.

Most important way, make sure you feel ready for the separation and are not being pressured by others. ”It’s a very personal decision,” Glasser says. ”Listen to your gut, and find what’s right for you. Don’t push yourself.” Although there is no hurry to leave your baby overnight, Glasser says the experience can be helpful for babies when they are becoming more social, when they had developed a schedule, and when you have established a strong relationship with your baby – usually by about six months old.

Babies will benefit socially by spending time with other caregivers. Your little one might learn of new suit  self soothing methods, how to be flexible in her daily routines, and how to develop new relationships. ”Each relationship brings something new, and that’s a good thing,” Glasser says. ”Each new experience can be enriching for the baby.”

– Wendy Huston


 Surviving your first overnight stay without baby

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