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Ask the Expert: Ready To Adopt?

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Q: How Do I Know If I Am Ready To Adopt?

A: Though there are many questions to ask yourself prior to embarking on the path to adoption, for those who may have been infertile, you know you are ready to adopt a child when you have resolved your grief over not having been able to give birth.

Infertility was not a condition that led my husband and I to adopt our daughter Aster. During the first several years of our marriage, however, becoming parents was either physically impossible, or emotionally dicey; we simply were not ready. If you are a person who desires to grow a family through adoption, there are a few things you must ask yourself before you begin.

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First, ask yourself this question: Have I really and truly come to know that I want to grow my family through the miracle of adoption? This is vital. Most of the time people choose to adopt as a last resort, as a, “Well, at least we can adopt” sort of attitude. For my book, Finding Aster—our Ethiopian adoption story, I interviewed many women who went through some kind of fertility treatments. Though some did get pregnant, no pregnancy went to term; the medical interventions all eventually failed, and they ended up adopting their child or children.

While listening to the stories of failed fertility treatments and eventual adoptions, I interpreted a subtle lack of satisfaction, or perhaps just a simple sadness. I know that no woman I interviewed underwent any kind of intentional grief therapy before pursuing her adoption. I strongly believe that this lack of mourning did not serve their transition into parenthood of an adopted child.

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Considering adoption without fully grieving the loss of your fertility, or completely exploring what it means to bring a non-blood human being into your family, is a mistake.

The other important thing to ask yourself if you plan to adopt in any other way save a private infant adoption is simply this: Am I ready to take on whatever issues may arise as a result of my child having been institutionalized? If you cannot enthusiastically answer, Yes! then you are not ready to adopt.

Dina McQueen is an award-winning writer, adoption advocate, and speaker, focusing on helping to change social consciousness surrounding adoption. She is the author of  Finding Aster—our Ethiopian adoption story

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